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 Adoption is a loving alternative
to a difficult situation. However, there are some in our
society who look down on adoption and those who place
children into adoptive homes. Some think that if mothers
truly cared about their child, they would raise their child
themselves. Some think that placing a child for adoption is
like abandoning the child. We expect that possibly you have
heard of these sentiments and others.
Unfortunately, this kind of
pressure makes decision making all the more difficult. In
reality, these thoughts are the farthest from the truth and
not at all reflective of what adoption is about.
Adoption is about love for
children and putting the needs of children first. Adoption
is about doing the right thing. We know that each birth
mother makes her decision based on what is best for her
child and places this consideration above her own personal
feelings.
Women choose adoption for many
reasons. Many know they will be great moms someday, but just
are not ready to parent right now. Some already have
children and don’t believe they can adequately provide for
another one.
Adoption is a loving option
which places a child into the arms of an adoptive family who
has longed to have a child. Adoptive families are prepared
and motivated to do a great job of raising a child. They
also have tremendous respect and honor for those who place
their child in their home. It has been said that “gratitude
is the greatest at the point of need.” Well, this certainly
applies to adoptive parents and how thankful they are to
their birth parents.
Choosing adoption involves the
process of good decision making. Objectively looking at
options, weighing the pros and cons, searching the heart and
considering one’s needs and opportunities is involved. Also,
the type of adoption plan being made can be a factor in the
decision making process. Open adoptions can make this
decision more acceptable, attractive and possible for many.
Again, we believe adoption works best when the needs of
everyone are met.
It is important to realize that
pain and uneasy feelings are normal in a decision making
process, especially something dealing with strong tugs on
the heart. Sometimes people think that if a decision is
painful, it must be wrong. However, this is not often the
truth. Difficult decisions are often painful. Again, good
counseling and support can be very helpful during this
process.
Our counselors are ready and
willing to help you work through your decision making
process. We do this without applying pressure to you. We are
here to help you make the decision that is right for you and
your situation. We encourage you to give us a call. |
